I have heard that the quality of our lives is reflection of the quality of the questions we ask ourselves.
If we want better or different lives, we must ask ourselves different or better questions.
When is the last time you did an audit of your life? A spring clean of your beliefs? When was the last time you asked yourself –
Am I happy? Am I fulfilled? What do I really want?
What if we did a spring clean of our beliefs like we spring clean our homes or our wardrobes?
When we spring clean our wardrobe, we take everything out and look at it. Some of it is old, tired, faded, maybe holey. Take a long look.
Does it fit me now? Do I want to patch it up? Is it dated and outworn? Is it worth holding onto?
Is it time to throw out what no longer fits and get something new, fresh and more suitable for who you are now?
Beliefs are like this too. They are thoughts that become habits but like clothes, we change, shift, we outgrow them. When we first took them on, they fit us, they had a purpose but as we change, they can become outworn.
When trying on something new, we want it to fit well, to feel good. At first, we may not be sure but if it seems ok – looks good, fits nicely, is comfortable, etc, then we may buy it. Once we take it home, we really get to know if works for us. We’ve all bought things that sit in the back of the cupboard and don’t get worn. Maybe we bought it for an occasion, maybe we were in a particular emotional state, maybe we had the encouragement of a friend or sales person that made it seem like a better purchase than it was. Likewise, a belief will fit comfortably or will not. We may start with something we are not completely at ease with and grow into it or we may find something that fits like a glove at first but find that it no longer serves us, it is tight, restrictive or just doesn’t work for us anymore. Throw it out.
Allow yourself the freeing sensation of releasing and consciously choose beliefs that fit you better. Who you are now and who you want to become.
A great belief, old or new, will fit you like your favourite dress or shoes and never go out of style. It will lift your spirits and make you feel amazing. A classic.
Like clothes also, not everything we invest in is good for us. We may have bought that flowing white dress that made us feel like Stevie Nicks, but when we looked back at the photos, we look like a we are wearing a circus marquee….. or the hideous school uniform that was scratchy and uncomfortable but becomes part of us because we had to wear it.
Not every belief is good for us, we all have beliefs that made us feel certain ways about ourselves-
I’m not good at- sports, cooking, relationships, etc, etc
I’m clumsy, socially awkward, always sick….
I’m not ___________ enough…
You get the picture.
Invest in beliefs that you want to have about yourself, your life, your abilities, etc. Even if it feels a little silly or uncomfortable at first, everything is changeable with determination and persistence.
Start seeing the things that come up around not as dead ends, but merely bumps along the way. They are there to show you what needs healing.
What are you ready to spring clean from your beliefs closet?